This is a must read if you are like I used to be, and live your life with regret, shame, guilt, or pain, and are always "shoulding" your self to death. "This shouldn't be happening" "That shouldn't have happened" "I should be doing this". Her approach is called "the work", and it teaches how to identify feeling states, and to recognize the underlying thought that is causing that feeling state. Yes, if you are familiar with cognitive behavioral therapy and the thought, emotion, action triangle you will have a head start on "the work". Her website www.thework.com offers free printable worksheets that you can use to do "the work" on your baggage.
WARNING: this way of life is directly in contrast with that of "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. Meaning that since you are no longer concerned with how others think or feel about you therefore you no longer observe social niceties and go out of your way to make people like you. This can lead to relationship problems that may lead you to decide that you need to modify your own personal application of her "work" to your life.
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